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I ere a Good Reaon o Ge
By Aaron Moss
 

Question:

In today's world, is marriage still relevant? Unlike a hundred years ago, the average couple today live together without getting married. What are they missing? (This is not a theoretical question for me...)  

Answer:

Marriage is more relevant today than ever in history. Marriage used to be a given. Now it is a choice. All the old arguments for marriage have fallen away, and we are left with only one true reason to get married. We can finally get married for the right reason.   What were once good reasons to get married are today irrelevant. Here are four classic reasons to get married, and why each one is flawed.  

So we can live together. As you pointed out in your question, this reason no longer applies to the many couples who live happily together before marriage.  

So we can have children. This may come as a surprise, but it is possible to have children and be wonderful parents without getting married.  

To make a solid commitment. That's a charming one. We are getting married to make it harder to walk away from each other. How romantic.  

To make our relationship official. You could achieve that by placing an announcement in the newspaper saying, "We are now official". You don't need a caterer to serve gespatcho soup in a ballroom just to make it official.  

So what are we left with? If not to live together, to start a family, to make a commitment or to make it official, why get married?  

There's only one reason.  

Marriage makes a relationship divine. Getting married means that something bigger than both of you is bringing you together. A wedding achieves something that simply can't happen otherwise - G-d is introduced into the relationship.  

Until they are married, a couple's commitment to each other is a human commitment, with all the limitations of being human. We can't see the future, we can't know what may change and what may eventuate, and we make mistakes. The Chuppah elevates the commitment beyond human limitations. The blessings made under the Chuppah invoke G-d's name upon the couple, and bring G-d into the union as a partner. You are married not just because you chose to be, but because G-d has said so.  

You can have it all without a Chuppah - you can have love, commitment and family - but it isn't holy. Only by standing under a Chuppah and marrying according to tradition does your union become sacred. Only after the wedding is your love blessed with the divine imprint of eternity. 

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Posted on February 6, 2006
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