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Can I Name My Dog Irael?
By Aaron Moss
 

Question:
I was born and raised Catholic but left it as a teenager, and since I married a Jewish man I have adopted many Jewish customs. My husband is from an observant family but no longer identifies with the Jewish community. I hope this gives you some background. Now for my question:

We purchased a new dog last week from our local breeder. I would like to name the dog "Israel." My husband strongly objects on the grounds that his great-grandfather was a rabbi, and his name was Israel. He has compared this to him wanting to name the dog John Paul (the name of the late Pope). I told him that it wouldn't bother me.

My point is that my husband is not religious and is estranged from his family. It has been this way for more than 15 years. I really can't see why he objects to the name so much. Giving our dog a Jewish name is so important to me.

Do you have any advice for me?  I'm sure you get these questions all the time.

Angela

Answer:

Dear Angela,

Jewishness is a strange phenomena. It is very hard for others to understand a Jew's connection to his or her identity. A Jew may be estranged from his religion for many years, but never does he lose his Jewish spark. The harshest insult is to suggest to an unaffiliated Jew that he is no longer Jewish. It isn't true, and he feels it in his bones.

There may be all kinds of reasons why your husband left Judaism, but he will never leave his Jewishness. Below the layers of hurt, anger, resentment or doubt, there is a powerful Jewish heart beating. He may have experienced a bad family life, but his family will always be his family. In a similar way, the Jewish people will always be his people, an extended family.

You have good intentions in wanting to give a Jewish name to your dog. But be aware that you are touching the feelings that lie at the deepest core of your husband's soul, a part of him you may never be able to understand. You feel that you are honoring Judaism by naming the dog "Israel"; he feels it is a disgrace to his Jewish heritage. For you, the issue is labeling a dog. For him, it is a far more pressing issue: it is labeling his own soul.

Your husband can't call the dog Israel, because that's his name. There is a tag around your husband's soul, that he will never remove, and it says, "Israel."

All the best,
Rabbi Moss

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Posted on September 2, 2005
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